Funny how we can convince ourselves that something we say, do or even provide to our addicted kids can actually have the ability to bring about change in them! I realized that I have been doing this lately. I have been thinking about how Zach is doing better than he was 6 months ago, how he is functioning in society better, not nodding off while standing up (in front of me anyways), going to college, looking for work, etc.
BUT...none of this has anything to do with me or what I might be able to offer to him. He is now on Prop. 36 probation, THAT is what is driving him to at least maintain a bit better.
I still believe if he is approachable then I will approach, and if he is not receptive, I will retreat.
Funny how our minds like to play around and make us think we are more powerful and in control of things. The only thing I am in control of is my own recovery, which is what I need to be busy concerning myself with:)