November 4, 2009

Pay or Appear---Oops!

So Zach had a court date this past Monday.  It was for a pay fine or appear.  He knew about the date because he had mentioned it to us a few times in the past month or so.  He didn't go.  I presume he forgot or just thought it was no big deal.  He has the money saved for the fine, just didn't show.  So, they revoked probation and issued a warrant.  Boy oh boy, today was he scrambling about.  He ran right down to the store to get a money order for the court, then called me to find out where to take it (I work at the court).  That is the only help I gave him, directed him to the right building.  He now needs to contact his attorney and put the case on calendar and go before the Judge.  It will be interesting to see how well he does in this whole process without any assistance.  Oh, and he did call me at work last minute today to see if I could take a break and give him a ride to College.  I told him no and that he could walk, which is what he proceeded to do.  Baby steps!


Barbara(aka Layla) said...

Way to go Mom and sticking to your boundaries and doing the right thing...sounds like he's learning! I am inspired :)

Madison said...

Great job! Not to sound too generalized, but it seems to me that addicts become professional users. They have a list of things they need. To accomplish a task, they just need to find someone else to do it. Then, instead of getting better at taking care of themselves, they get better at manipulating others. This is accomplished by being sweet, sad, angry, crying, begging, threatening or instilling fear or guilt. In the process, if mom completely falls apart trying to meet their needs, oh well. Besides that, by doing stuff for them, we strip them of the sense that they are independent, capable people (if it weren't for drugs/ alcohol). You get your life back. Your son gets to learn new things. Win/Win all around.

Brother Frankie said...

you are doing fine. i am proud of you. baby steps for all..

you are loved
brother frankie
a biker for christ

Syd said...

Good for you to stick by your boundaries. He can learn to be responsible.