tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post3660888197256791880..comments2023-08-19T19:20:13.845-07:00Comments on Mom trying to Detach With Love: UpdateThe neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-75098031447707931382009-12-14T11:30:49.173-08:002009-12-14T11:30:49.173-08:00I like what Fractal Mom wrote as well. I don't...I like what Fractal Mom wrote as well. I don't like to stay in limbo but make a decision. These days I make the decision with the will of my HP in mind.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-41217536788695728812009-12-12T11:28:50.837-08:002009-12-12T11:28:50.837-08:00Fractal Mom said it so well. There isn't one t...Fractal Mom said it so well. There isn't one thing she wrote, that I would not disagree on.<br />I've been in limbo land more than I can count.<br />It sucks. Keep blogging. We're all in this together.<br /><br />Prayerfully,<br />DebbyDebby of Oxycontin and Opiate Addiction: A Mother's Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881167853310152283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-80278676029720154822009-12-12T09:41:33.917-08:002009-12-12T09:41:33.917-08:00Thank you all so much for your comments. Fractalm...Thank you all so much for your comments. Fractalmom, you nailed it, really! Love this comment and I am sure I will go back to it often. I am making a decision today and I am leaving Limbo Land because it sucks there. I have been considering shredding the check or sending it back in a new envelope. I think I am just going to shred it and move on. Thank you all for standing by me while I have been stuck in Limbo Land.The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-33295554013729373122009-12-12T06:51:01.618-08:002009-12-12T06:51:01.618-08:00one thing I can share is this.
Limbo (purgatory) ...one thing I can share is this.<br /><br />Limbo (purgatory) SUCKS !!<br /><br />Limbo is when you have the inability to make a decision regarding any particular situation.<br /><br />For the parents of an active addict, we get stuck in Limbo land alot.<br /><br />There are so many different situations in which we simply don't know WHAT to do, and it eats and eats and eats at us, leaving us stuck in Limbo land.<br /><br />so, to get out of limbo land, you make a decision and stick to it.<br /><br />it is only at that point that you can move forward from that situation. To not make any decision is to be stuck forever in limbo.<br /><br />Once you get out, it then becomes rather easy to NOT get involved the next time a situation comes up.<br /><br />At that juncture, simply refuse to participate at all.<br /><br />for instance, if the mailman delivers any more mail to your house in your son's name simply write on it <br /><br />not at this address, left no forward and put it BACK in the mailbox.<br /><br />No limbo.<br /><br />you can only allow yourself to be drawn into the drama so many times before you realize you do NOT have to participate at all.<br /><br />so, if you want to shred it, shred it. It's a decision. you then move forward.<br /><br />If you want to leave it in a bowl or bag and just hand it to him next time you see him, then make THAT decision and move forward.<br /><br />Stay out of Limbo. It sucks!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-2625289871086707772009-12-11T17:38:35.367-08:002009-12-11T17:38:35.367-08:00Somebody telling you that you can sing in the midd...Somebody telling you that you can sing in the middle of the turmoil sounds nutty. But, one day at a time (sometimes one hour at a time), I hope you give yourself permission to be at peace. Unless your son has won the lottery, he'll be back for the check.Anonymous :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14866852475568786172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-81395991635761068932009-12-11T13:42:34.733-08:002009-12-11T13:42:34.733-08:00you could always put "return to sender" ...you could always put "return to sender" or "not at this address" and put it back in the mail.<br />does he even know if you got the check? knowing he is high i would just put return to sender on it and it may only delay the inevitable but don't let him use your address again.clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-91031794365385822462009-12-11T12:23:34.220-08:002009-12-11T12:23:34.220-08:00I don't know what to say other than I really f...I don't know what to say other than I really feel for you, take care. xxxxChic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-40565067816646803742009-12-11T09:53:47.284-08:002009-12-11T09:53:47.284-08:00Sorry to hear this Sweetie. Wish I had something ...Sorry to hear this Sweetie. Wish I had something really good to say but today my theme is "why does my life have to be so complicated because of my son's addiction". I know the answer is to let him go, etc. But it doesn't work like that at my house. I am the one who would have to leave. :(Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11199221663659821.post-73152453673343674352009-12-11T09:46:07.149-08:002009-12-11T09:46:07.149-08:00He had a chance, throw the check in a bowl and lea...He had a chance, throw the check in a bowl and leave it there until he comes for it and don't mention it again. I'm sure it has an expiration on it and if it expires, so be it.<br /><br />If he phones and asks the just say some mail come for you i don't know.Dad and Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.com